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Post by Rain on Apr 12, 2005 14:06:26 GMT -5
This is just a question that came in my head today. I was thinking about how people (like some of us here) cut theirself and I wonder if this will affect their boy-/girlfriends when they get them. The question is more, how would you react on someone you love who is scarred? Does it turn you off? Do you find some physical beauty (really,very) important? Like a beautiful clean skin without the cuts?
I have had people who didn't like it that I was cutting, so it all ended but at the moment I have found my place with someone who sees past it and really cares about me as a person and doesn't mind at all that I am covered in scars.
I'd like to know how you guys think and how you'd feel towards someone special who turns to be scarred.
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Post by presh on Apr 13, 2005 0:19:04 GMT -5
oh my gosh rain...that's wonderful...
well the way i see it, scars usually have an interesting story behind them. and if someone is comfortable to ask you about them in a meaningful way, then most likely they are not judging, but are actually interested. though i am sure the majority of people are scared or repelled by that sort of thing, because they can't comprehend it, or do not want to try.
i've got acne scars, and it does pain me to see all these girls around with perfect skin....
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Post by morbid soul on Apr 13, 2005 7:47:58 GMT -5
Each scar has a story behind it, its something we understand and only have an aswer to I think some people would be put off with it but I myself I dont think I would you can only ask and learn about that person and have an understanding of what their going through.
Many judge and are put off because they dont understand they think that, that one person is a weirdo but I myself would ask becauseI would like to know the story behind those scars.
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Post by megoboom on Apr 14, 2005 17:32:14 GMT -5
well i think my boyfriend is concerned but doesn't bring it up too much he just like i want you to be happy etc me i dunno really i think it would b something that we both could share
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Post by Rain on Apr 15, 2005 1:15:04 GMT -5
I guess in that way I am lucky that this person doesn't care about how mutilated my skin is, neither would I to anyone else who was scarred. But I like it when someone talks about it with me and finds piece in it and doesn't feel any guilt or disgust or think I should feel shame or have regret for what I've done. That's what I least feel. It helped me awhile even afterwards it wasn't too much.
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Post by kittyclub2005 on Jun 12, 2005 15:09:40 GMT -5
I guess I wouldn't mind scars as long as I know why they're there.
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Post by Rain on Jun 12, 2005 15:53:23 GMT -5
There's always a reason behind each action, a silly or serious one. I wouldn't mind if my lover had scars, pimples... or any other strange marks (I had a friend who had burnt marks, she never told me what the reason was). I sound weird, I know. But truely I wouldn't care. I'd be too into him and the fact he is a living creature. Someone I've never had very close, someone who has a bloody heart beating inside his chest.
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Post by zero on Nov 25, 2005 16:22:05 GMT -5
My girlfriend also cuts herself, and we don't really talk about it much, but I see it as part of what makes her beautiful. It helps to see that she has a story that I have yet to hear, that I can learn from her and hopefully help her. I get yelled at by friends if they see my arms, so I just keep them covered as much as I can, until more recent ones have faded a bit. But scars in general I've always liked, it adds a little bit of mystery.
Then again, I'm just a very strange person.
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Post by kittyclub2005 on Dec 21, 2005 2:51:51 GMT -5
[glow=purple,2,300]^ You make a point there.[/glow]
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Post by Twisted on Sept 17, 2006 18:43:04 GMT -5
I have a boyfriend at first I was afrid to tell him about it but I finally did. He wasn't surprised sense I hinted about it before. He was just sad. He doesn't want me to hurt myself and is sad when I do because he doesn't want me to be sad or hurt. He tells me to stop but he doesn't really get how addictive it is.
Anyway to ansower your questions
how would you react on someone you love who is scarred?
I would be ok with it. I mean I'm scarred so I'm not going to like freak out on them or any thing.
Does it turn you off?
No again I have scars so I would be a hypracrit to say they do.
Do you find some physical beauty (really,very) important? Like a beautiful clean skin without the cuts?
No I'm not that shallow
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Post by princess on Sept 19, 2006 10:59:11 GMT -5
I get dumped alot because of the cuts and scars
I often look in the mirror and think fuck what have I done
but then I know I want love not lust
lust would be loving the way I looked
love would be wanting and needing me no matter what
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